(Link for mobile users: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ie9FvX0Yyy0&feature=youtu.be)
1. Is this sport or activity for them or is it for YOU?
2. Do you know how difficult this is for your child?
3. Have you yourself tried this activity?
4. Is it more important to YOU or your child to succeed?
5. What are they learning from the experience?
Remember a few things that I can assure you that your child will go through.
1. They do not want to disappoint you (Parents & Coaches)
2. They do not want to fail because who likes to lose?
3. They will experience stress from the above two items
4. They WILL lose some but hopefully they will also win some as well
If you are a parent that is incredibly tough on your children like what is seen in this video I ask that you work on making yourself a better parent.
1. Back OFF! Let the coaches do their job and TALK to them. Get feedback to determine what they could have done better. If you have a coach like this...I recommend finding a new gym.
2. If you can't do the above then you should reconsider taking part in activities such as BJJ practice and especially tournaments. I have seen parents here and there that simply cannot control themselves while watching their kids roll & compete. This may not be the sport for you or your child.
You kids are already participating in a very tough sport and they need YOUR support.
If you are a coach and are guilty of treating your students like this then YOU should reconsider working with children or coaching entirely. It's our job to make these kids better on and off the mats. They need to have their self-esteem built up, not destroyed.
I'll finish this up by saying that as a parent, if you find your kids in an atmosphere that is not healthy for the development of your child IMMEDIATELY get in touch with the coach or head instructor. If the issues cannot be resolved then it's time to look for a better environment. Not everyone can be a world champion in this sport but this should be fun, a learning experience, and an opportunity to grow.